You attract what you are. How does that feel? Does it ignite happiness, contentment, anger, or a little discomfort? Perhaps it triggered a quick flashback into your past. And as you try to recollect your memory, you find it increasingly difficult to admit that you are the common denominator. True to that statement, you’ve been attracting what you are, consciously or unconsciously.
Like attracts like
Rhonda Byrne, in her book The Secret, reveals a key principle in manifesting our reality. She asserts that like attracts like. In essence, what you think, what you feel, and what manifests is always a match. Her collection of experiences and insights from world thought leaders second this same principle. Most recently, several other authors like Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, and many others have further expounded on this concept.
The power of our thoughts is not a new phenomenon. In the Bible, several verses talk about our thought system. For instance, Proverbs 23:7 says as someone thinks within himself, so he is. Mark 11:24 talk about whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. Lastly, Philippians 4:8, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things. Why would the Bible talk about our thoughts, beliefs, and maintaining a positive thought system? Maybe there’s a lot to it than we care to admit. Mind you; these are just a few verses I picked to illustrate the concept of like attracts like. Several other scriptures talk about this same thing.
So what does this mean for you? Whatever your religion, race, or culture, your thoughts and feelings have everything to do with your experiences and who you are today.
You attract who you are
When something goes wrong in your relationships, it’s always easy to pinpoint the other person’s weaknesses or mistakes. However, it’s difficult to see your contribution to the dysfunctional relationship. Going by the law of attraction, you attract what you are, not what you want. This means you’ll attract people in the same level of health or woundedness as yourself.
Since the energy we send out is the energy we receive, people with positive and high-level frequency will attract others with the same frequency. That is to say, those people who are secure, caring, open, and kind to others and themselves will most likely attract people with the same trait. On the flip side, individuals with low frequency, the people who are insecure, negative, needy, detached, or closed, also attract the same.
This is the point where you get all defensive. But before you start ranting about how you are a good person, yet you always attract the wrong people, pause and think again. Do you think you are good enough? Do you honestly feel you deserve better? Do you think you are important? How much do you love and care for yourself? This is not a rushed exercise where a simple yes or no will suffice. And so, if you’ve already given a resounding yes to all these questions, ask yourself why you still make wrong choices. Chances are, there is a mismatch between what you say and what you believe.
So, I’ll need you to focus on the feelings that these questions elicit. Further, reflect on how you treat yourself and check how others treat you. You will find one unique pattern. How other people treat you or relate to you directly reflects how you feel about yourself.
Change your thought system
No one deliberately looks for insecure, closed, or negative people, but if that’s what you are putting out in the universe, that’s exactly what you’ll attract. Our belief system plays a major role in what we think we are. This is shaped by our experiences and perception of the universe. So, the best you can do is acknowledge the fact that your thoughts are flawed. Accept that you have played a major role in attracting the “wrong” people in your life. It’s only then that you can start healing, break the toxic pattern, and build healthy relationships.
